Learn to listen to God, especially when you are listening to someone else.
As others open their souls to you, you should rely on the Holy Spirit so you can respond appropriately. Ask Him to think through you, live through you, and to love through you. When the Spirit empowers your listening and thinking, God flows through you to other people.
Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own.
1 Cor 6:19